Me and Ryan Olivia

Me and Ryan Olivia

Friday, May 11, 2012

Less Grey - More Clarity!

This is an awkward blog for me - I am not judging anyone nor am I suggesting that I am in some way superior - I am simply concerned about women I know and women I don't really know all that well, that are buying into a lie of the enemy without recognizing it for the lie it is and the slippery slope of bondage it causes. It is my opinion and belief that some of us are willingly participating in activity that we do not realize is poisoning our minds thus our families. Having been in complete bondage and having believed lies of the enemy for years that nearly destroyed me - I find myself aware and concerned for those around me that don't see or maybe don't want to acknowledge a lie that they are feeding themselves. Something that starts so innocently and leads to dark places - lies of the enemy are sometimes like seeds planted, that given the chance will take root and take over!

Now again I am not perfect - NO WHERE close to perfect. And I am no expert, scholar or otherwise in what the scriptures of God say with regard to this subject. My past life and experiences taught me a lot about lies and the damage that can result. My ever growing personal relationship with God,and my continued effort to grow and maintain my relationship with Him have made A LOT of changes in me. My faith, my relationship with Jesus, is the most important thing in my life and I want to share what I have found with everyone! For years, I did not recognize these lies for what they really were....but when I understood, took a hard look at them and compared them to the TRUTH of Gods word - I finally started to heal - really started to feel - my eyes were opened and there is NO WAY I am going back! I am not without faults...I have MANY! So I share this with you - hoping you will not be offended, rather that you will be willing to look honestly at the subject at hand. So what am I rambling about!?!?!?! What is the subject at hand, you ask??? Pornography....

I think if we all sat down with one another we could all agree that pornography does not bring anything positive and uplifting into our world. I have given it some thought and I can not come up with an argument that supports pornography as something positive in our world/culture. We (as women) offer think of magazines, Internet sites, and movies as pornography. And we (women) associate pornography with men, "their" issue - you know their dirty that often makes us (as women) a bit uncomfortable. I remember being married and feeling disgusted, worthless, and completely detached due to my ex husbands habit with porn. After my divorce and as a single woman, I came to "accept" porn but at the very same time I felt as if I competed with those images and had to live up to expectations in the bed room due to the images boyfriends watched (and I sometimes watched with them) - I convinced myself that it was exciting in some ways, the very fact that it was "naughty" made it feel sexy - but in reality and over time what it did was diminish and cheapened something that should have been and should always be precious. Sex became very empty, it became a perversion, less satisfying and completely detached of what it should be. I can tell you that I have many many friends in my life that have expressed the same feelings. Most times not realizing the damage had been done until reflecting years later- many times when we are in the middle of something we can not see it for what it really is or the damage it is doing to us, the people we love, and the relationships we cherish. I don't know many ladies that have an "issue" with pornography in the terms above....nope ladies, we don't buy the magazines full of naked people nor do we watch porn online or have a collection of DVD's readily available to us....but the world is clever and gives us our own special brand of porn wrapped up in a pretty, neat package...books. Lately I have seen and heard so much talk of the book trilogy Fifty Shades of Grey. Ladies...I know it seems harmless, it's a book, it is make believe, it is is not hurting anyone. But ask yourself, how do men defend the magazines, the Internet, and the DVD's that many of us find perverse.

Jesus tells us in Luke 21:34-36  “Be careful, or your hearts will be weighed down with carousing, drunkenness and the anxieties of life, and that day will close on you suddenly like a trap. For it will come on all those who live on the face of the whole earth. Be always on the watch, and pray that you may be able to escape all that is about to happpen, and that you may be able to stand before the Son of Man." In other words - don't let your mind and spirit be dulled by careless living or foolish pursuit of pleasure. Jesus is coming again and we need to watch and be spiritually fit until that time.

A few months ago - this idea of guarding my mind was brought to my attention. I had already made many changes without really trying as my walk and relationship with Christ deepened....for example the type music I listened to completely changed. But it was while reading the book Resolution for Women by Priscilla Shirer, I was challenged to really look at my life and the "things" I entertain myself with - the TV programs I watch, the books I read, etc. Priscilla illustrated her point by pointing out that rat poison is 3% poison and 97% food.....that we kill rats with a small bit of poison laced within something perceived as good or harmless. She wrote and I quote:

Strategically hidden, carefully disguised. Underneath the surface, just below the radar. We lick our lips and go about our business, thinking that everything is going to be fine. It may take days, maybe weeks, before we begin to notice. But eventually our spiritual organs start to fail. Our passion quells. Our sensitivity and discernment wane. We lose our gag reflex. We're dying a slow death.

Now I realize many will disagree me where this blog is concerned. However I couldn't help but wonder if maybe there is someone out there that wants to be and is working to become the woman God calls us all to be & truly wants God's best in her life, but is also considering picking up the Fifty Shades of Grey series or something similar given all the "hype" we hear and see about it daily. Maybe this person has never thought about it in these terms but now will give it additional consideration before purchasing the book(s).

God does not want to rob us of our fun, rather He is jealous for us to have all of His blessings -